Declaring your wedding vows in front of your fiancé, family and friends is one of those special moments during a wedding that can be heartfelt to you as a couple and undoubtedly meaningful to everyone else in attendance.
Writing your own vows is a wonderful way to make the wedding ceremony even more special, and truly add a personal touch.
While you must be married by an official or officiant who is able to legally declare you husband and wife, the actual wording you choose for your wedding vows need not adhere to the typical, formal words or vows you may have heard at other weddings.
** Please note that if you will be married in a place of worship and wish to customize your wedding vows, you may have to obtain permission to do so and subsequently have these vows approved by your official prior to your wedding day.
Your officiant will more than likely have a collection of vows that he or she has used in prior ceremonies — this is a good place to start when constructing your own vows. Feel free to use wording that appeals to you both and don’t be afraid to add other words, promises etc. that are important to you.
Here is a set of traditional wedding vows that you can start with and add other words or promises to – you may also prefer to keep things simple and traditional as many couples do, and just use these vows as is:
I, _______ (bride/groom), take you _______ (groom/bride), to be my (husband/wife), to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, from this day forward until death do us part.
Most importantly, don’t worry that you have to memorize your vows – only do so if you’re both comfortable with it. You may be far more comforted knowing that your vows are recorded in a journal which you’ll both read from during the ceremony.